As most of you know, Cornertime Confidential is not a blog about sex—oral, anal, or otherwise. It’s obviously a blog about the pleasures of life as an adult boy and the lives of Men Who Spank boys like us and in some cases become our partners.
However, there are times when some boys in this world find themselves in sexual situations with their Daddys— I am one of those boys. Today, I want to honor that by saying as a boy, it’s my obligation and pleasure to do these sexual things correctly for my Daddy (and in the end, me).
The instructional discourse below from @The-Objectifier is actually really helpful for me, and I hope it will be for you too. Even after all these years of trying to learn how to service Daddy properly everytime, I do not succeed, I’ll admit it.
If the blogpost below from The Objectifier was written by my own Daddy as this is a blog I didn’t know he writes, then—“Hey there, Daddy! I’m paying attention! And I’m workin’ on it!”
But if not, I still want to thank this Sir for writing it down in such detail, and I want to share this with some of Cornertime Confidential readers who want and need this information!
At the bottom of this lengthy post, I’ll explain in greater detail why there are so many valuable lessons to learn in The Objectifier’s post today. Please take the time to read his post fully, then if you have the time, see how this applies to a case study: the relationship between me and my Daddy.
Now there is nothing wrong with wanting to suck on cock. I can totally see the necessity of that. After all, I need someone to suck on my cock.
Below is a list of things cocksuckers need to learn.
When I want a cocksucker, I want lips and mouth around my cock. I like that feeling. I can be hard, soft, or in between. I just want to feel a mouth there. A mouth. Not hands and fucking not teeth. So use your damn mouth and lips.
Most cocksuckers I came across are not accomplished enough to get me off with their mouths. That can only mean you are not sucking hard enough. Work harder, practice, and learn. Quite a few guys that tried to suck me off told me their jaws were sore after. While hearing about it after the fact is cool, don’t let that get in the way of your servicing me during the cocksucking. That is your discomfort. And a cocksucker’s discomfort should never get in the way of my pleasure.
I don’t care if you gag or not. If you have no gag reflex, good for you. But if you do gag, I want you to keep going. If your eyes water, let it run down. Don’t fucking stop. When it is just starting to feel plausibly good, a lot of cocksuckers back off. If you feel like you can no longer control your stomach, back off and take a couple of deep breaths, settle down and then immediately come back on my cock. You can apologize in the process, but that should be all you do. Keep my fucking cock down your throat. And don’t bother to wipe those tears, we both know they are there, why fucking hide it.
I like to cockslap a cocksucker. It turns me on. When you suck off a guy like me, don’t shy away or try to move away from my cock. It might hurt when I whip you across your face with my hard cock, but the truth is that you face is exposed to the elements, it is tougher than it looks. So just hold your head still and take it.
Look up at me. Sex isn’t all about physical pleasures. I want to know you are between my legs sucking on my cock and you are doing everything you can to please me. And you cannot please me if you are not observing what I am doing. You might be craning your neck in a weird angle. In that case, subtly shift so that you can look at me. I might not be paying attention to you, but a cocksucker should at all times pay attention to me. Don’t fucking look away and for god’s sake don’t fucking close your eyes. If you are looking away or closing your eyes from shame, then why the fuck am I wasting time with a cocksucker who doesn’t even want to suck cock?
Sometimes I will fuck your face. I will drill my cock into your throat and you will gag. But keep your eyes on me and don’t fucking pull away. Be thankful I am doing this. Because this is the one time you will learn what actually gets me going. Learn the intensity with which I am drilling your face hole. That is the intensity I want from your cocksucking. If I keep my cock inside deep and hold it there for a while and do that multiple times, that means I like having my cock buried deep. If I jab in and out quick and short, that means I like that speed.
Use your tongue. There is a reason why you have one more muscle inside that cocksucking mouth. Use it to press against the underside of my cock so it brings me more friction. Lick the underside of my cock when I am pulling out and about to jab back in again. Lick the head of my cock when I hold it in front of your face. There are a lot of things you can do with your tongue. Learn what I like and use it.
If you must stop because your entire mouth is numb and you need a bit of recovery time, you don’t just stop. You take that face of yours and rub it all over with my cock. Get my cock juice all over your face, including any facial hair. If you don’t use hair product or are bald, rub my cock on your hair/scalp too. Lick and kiss my balls. I am one of those guys that don’t really get into having my balls licked, but it does not hurt for you to show respect for the balls that generates my cum. You can also kiss my dick softly. A man like me loves my own cock. And you can show me how much you love it too by kissing and licking it. If you do a good job of that, I will ignore the fact that you are actually slacking off and let you rest a bit before getting back to sucking cock.
I will cum when, where, and if I want. My cum is a reward for a cocksucker. Just because you worked for like half an hour on my cock does not mean I will cum for you. You might not deserve it. If I don’t cum and leave, that can only mean you were lousy as a cocksucker. If I do cum, I cum when and where I want. If I cum on your face, don’t fucking try and dodge. Get your face right in front of me and be thankful I am creaming you. Trust me, ask any guy who cum on someone’s face, every one of them will agree that their cocksuckers look better when they have a face full of their cum.
If I am cumming in your mouth, don’t fucking pull away. I also expect you to swallow. That is the only respectful thing to do. If you must spit it out, you remove yourself from my sight when you do that. And for fuck’s sake do it quietly. Not cough and shit like that. I don’t fucking understand why some cocksuckers are so damn hung up about this one little detail. Guys leak precum and even some cum when they are hard. It is just a fact. So you if had been sucking on my cock, unless we used a condom, you swallowed some of it already. Why get all stupid about it now. So if I am cumming in your mouth, fucking just swallow it. If you want to enhance my pleasure, show me my cum in your mouth then swallow it.
So that’s a list of what I want my cocksuckers to do. Having this out here will teach some cocksuckers how to properly suck my cock.
(Be sure to click on the above headline for a separate blogpost which provides some helpful video and tips from others who do this work on a regular basis.)
The above blogpost from The Objectifier was not just an eye-opener this morning, it was a time to reflect. It reminded me what Daddy has taught me all these years living as his boy—both when we were living separately and also now that we live together.
Given I will be expected to provide Daddy more physical pleasure once his kidney infection clears up(!), I really appreciate this reminder of the details and the time involved to do this right for Daddy. Let’s take a deeper look at The Objectifier’s ideas now:
The 30 Minute Rule
In my experience, it can also easily take my Daddy the better part of 30 minutes or more for a complete ejaculation, which I’m expected to consume in my mouth/throat and swallow fully. If I’m very good, Daddy will let me use that as lube for my own orgasm. (For those wondering, I’m not usually Spanked for messing up and doing it badly, although that is a practical solution in CP-centered relationships, so I add that here for clarification).
“Sex isn’t all about physical pleasures. I want to know you are between my legs sucking on my cock, and you are doing everything you can to please me. But you cannot please me if you are not observing what I am doing.”
In my experience, often I’m enjoying pleasing my Daddy so much, that I begin to close my eyes and focus pretty completely on my own orgasm experience, which only takes like 5 minutes when I have his meat in my mouth and throat in particular. So I’m only 5 minutes into a 30 minute oral sex job, and I’ve already lost the rhythm Daddy requires for this to work well. This is probably just the nature of being a male, and focusing on my male privilege is pretty easy to do! Tell me I’m wrong! LOL.
It’s important to remove my own sexual gratification from my mind at the top of the experience, so I can completely dive into Daddy’s entire experience and reach our dual yet divergent goals. Like @the-objectifier says, it’s important to do more than just suck his erect penis. And due to the timeframe involved, naturally, you’ll be a better boy if you do the following:
Lick his sac,
Suck his erect, soft or semi-soft penis. ( Do this gently, however,and do not let your teeth get in the way. I’ve been slapped for sucking too hard on Daddy’s sac and/or penis. And it’s not fun to have Daddy pull away abruptly, because then you know you’ve upset Daddy which is no fun in this setting).
Sniffing his sweaty crotch, (Not gonna lie, I love to do this. Daddy lets it unfold as part of the experience).
Using my tongue on the underside of his penis.
Kissing, slurping, sucking without taking my mouth off his penis. Allowing his penis to exit your mouth can cause a frequent frustration for some men, and most do not complain if you keep their tool in you for extended periods of time.
Holding his meat in my mouth for extended periods of time whether he’s hard or not.
It can take a long while.
Sore, Embarrassed, but Blessed
I have also experienced what this Sir says about having a sore jaw.
“Quite a few guys that tried to suck me off told me their jaws were sore after. While hearing about it after the fact is cool, don’t let that get in the way of your servicing me during the cocksucking. That is your discomfort. And a cocksucker’s discomfort should never get in the way of my pleasure.“
My Daddy just laughs and reminds me it’s my job in this relationship, and to be appreciative that he takes the time to do this to my face. Same as he does after a Spanking when I’m complaining about a sore behind. He finds it ridiculous and will jokingly humiliate me if we’re out and I’m rubbing my fanny in public like I’ve been Spanked (which I sometimes have if he uses the wooden paddle).
He’s like, “Well, buddy, you brought that on yourself.”
In my experience, that’s both pretty exciting and pretty humiliating, and in spite of the soreness the rest of the day/night, I appreciate knowing my place in our relationship and knowing that Daddy enjoyed his orgasm or his dominant role.
Note of Caution
But a note of caution that this blogpost above points out: if he doesn’t come, then it’s also my place to not gripe about my sore jaw. I’m expected to do it right the next time. Because we’re in a long term relationship, that is something that we can focus on and improve with the frequency Daddy wants. That’s one of the important things about long term relationships, they’re for improvement and growth, not getting lazy and sloppy.
Over time, you’ll be glad you are in a Daddy/boy relationship because the nature of the relationship suggests that you will always have a role that is clearly outlined and neither Daddy nor you have to negotiate if oral sex, anal sex, Spanking, or any other Daddy/boy activity needs to be worked on. Usually, you know your role and your Daddy’s role, so your tendency to get lazy on the relationship front is curtailed by your duty to your Daddy. And Daddy too! Daddy knows without me saying anything that he has a duty to keep us on track.
What Orgasm Means and Doesn’t Mean
My Daddy has also done what this Sir does if I do not do this work for him properly,
“Just because you worked for like half an hour on my cock does not mean I will cum for you. You might not deserve it. If I don’t cum and leave, that can only mean you were lousy as a cocksucker. If I do cum, I cum when and where I want.”
I have had to consistently learnt this lesson over time. Daddy isn’t a performing monkey. He’s my Daddy, and in our relationship, Daddy is in charge in important moments like this, no matter how much I’m wanting to just orgasm with his firm penis in my mouth or how much I want him to ejaculate in my throat. I want that for reasons I cannot explain. It’s just a physical charge that comes with being an adult boy, I would assume. But it’s really important that Daddy decide if it’s just not going right to turn off the spigot. It’s a lesson in how to be trained as a boy, and frankly, I value Daddy disciplining me by denying his orgasm.
I realize for boys who are in more equal/egalitarian relationships, this blogpost will be a turn off. Sorry about that, and for my regular readers, if you find this blogpost distasteful, and if I’m using words you don’t like hearing coming from my blog, I appreciate that. So I do apologize to some of my longtime readers who are either not into M/m sex or who find oral and anal sex generally “not their bag.”
But for boys like me in long term relationships—and the Daddys who rely on us for their sexual gratification—then I think it’s important all boys in our shoes (errrr..on our knees???) remember this complex outline from @the-objectifier of what we are expected to do in this sexual setting.
Let’s take a hot second to again thank @the_objectifier for taking the time to write this for us all. His explanation is coarse, but necessary, and I for one really appreciate getting to think deeply about what my Daddy has more or less trained me to do, but probably could not possibly put into words. I look forward to sharing @the-objectifier’s post with Daddy to see if there are any things he would prefer I add into my oral sex work or delete from his expeience. I’m actually now looking forward to the conversation and the next practice session. Thanks for reading!
adult teen boy discipline is very different from Spanking a “middle” or a “little.”
Cornertime Confidential covers a LOT of territory in our world, but rarely do we have adult teen boys talking about what it’s like to live as a teen boy. While we’ve covered a lot about us ‘tweens and pre-teens on CC, we don’t have a lot of guys talking about either preferring to Spank adult teens or being an adult teen.
Today we change that. In a conversation with some adult teens, we start the discussion.
@dangerouslywisekid—whose account has recently been deactivated—from Tumblr had some thoughts that got us started talking.
I really really appreciated how you talked about the importance of clothing. So many guys don’t seem to care about clothing, and grooming, including haircuts for boys. i like it so much when a Daddy/Uncle type takes charge and takes the Spanking seriously, and doesn’t ONLY use it as basically foreplay.
But you and your blogs are legendary in the field. You are so great in helping other boys like me understand the possibilities.
The thing i want to learn more about is how, as a boy, to behave more and more like a 14-year-old, my preferred ageplay age, so as to elicit that response from the top.
Was never into diapers, per se. Although have worn pullups a couple times just to see what it was like. Kinda fun.
But am strictly white briefs otherwise.
CC: Yeah, I’m pretty much briefs only. I will do dipes if a Daddy prefers, but ultimately, I’m a boy, not a baby. I’m not sure we have enough teen boy stories on the blog. I know a few on Tumblr who are in the 11-year-old range, but none living as teens with their Dads. I think that’s because teens are usually very detached from their Dads and/or Moms.
So boys 12-and-under are much closer and are in that age where Spankings help keep us in line. It’s harder to Spank a teen and get the desired response! But again, it’d be great to find some teen boys and have them discuss the Spankings and Domestic Discipline (mouth soaping, chores, and other discipline) that could work for them.
One of my uncle’s beliefs Was we boys should be smacked on our briefs – Laid over the knee, Spanked as hard as could be! Then – Cornertime, nursing our griefs!
—Dr. Van Spanking
Right. Am a boy, not a baby. Living as a teen boy, I think, should have a lot going for it. And thank you so much for taking time to write back here. You are really articulate about it…so much so I feel like calling YOU “Sir.” …but we are both boys so, not really. But you have my respect.
I read this on another blog:
“Age Play”—a type of role play where an individual acts out an age younger than they physically are. They are playing out a role. Because of this they are not considered “littles.”
“Middle”—a “middle” is a person who mentally (or physically) feels younger than they physically are. The term “middle” can fall under the little broad spectrum term. It is also known as Lolita & Nymphet. They tend to be mentally older than “littles,” more around the teen ages. So around 13-17.
Once again ages are not set in stone because not every middle has a set age and not every “middle” feels they represent the above listed age.
“Middle Space”—The head space a “middle” finds themselves in during their transition, regression or when they become their “middle” persona. Some “middles” are always “middles” and are always in “middle space.” For others it’s something they regress into.
CC: These three definitions are nice and clear. I agree for the most part, except I’m about 11 years old in my middle life. I would argue that you can be either a tween or a teen as a “middle.”
i thought that was interesting, and you are totally right; there is not much at all written about the middle or teen boy DD scene, and I think it’s super important. Was reading a bunch of stories on the y lee coyote site, and links of his, about this…but much of it framed with moms, which is important too, but not the same thing. Golly! Your blog is so hot to me as a middle.
CC: Thanks again, dangerouslywisekid. As you grow into your middle role, let’s keep in touch!
[shortly after this communication, @dangerouslywisekid’s account was deactivated.]
At Cornertime Confidential we have a few key priorities:
Speak openly and honestly about discipline-centered relationships
Sharing stories that Men Who Spank and the boys they Spank have, and
Celebrate!Celebrate! Celebrate the life of being an adult boy!!!!
Most of all, we hope Cornertime Confidential brings you personally much joy and celebration of your lives—lives that normally remain fairly hidden from the public view.
Speedoes are for adult boys
This summer—like last summer—it did not escape our attention that boys shorts have been getting noticeably shorter. And those short shorts were causing a sensation in the media too. The briefer the shorts, the tighter the briefs, the closer we are getting to being able to be a full time boy without raising eyebrows when we’re out and about.
I was at the post office trying to get a single stamp to Canada (I know…who the hell goes to the post office for stamps these days?), but I did so in full boywear. I was in my boyshorts, cartoon briefs that you could see through the fabric on the seat and probably even folks could see the legloops and flyfront which were in a very dark contrasting colour, of course my “I’m Never Gonna Grow Up” shirt and Speed McQueen “Cars” movie baseball cap, and my little boy socks and He-Man Vans-brand shoes. It was a visual blur, a blur that just hollers “boy!”
Seems like everyone can see your fanny.
They know you’re a boy.
Thanks in large part to Tumblr and the internet generally, we’ve seen a ton of boy behaviours this summer and blogger like @SkelpUSA have been posting away. Today, I wanted to celebrate the work on his blog. Thanks so much for helping everyone FEEL summertime fun this year! Keep up the great blogging and follow him on Twitter too!
I cannot believe I missed this in 2017 by one day, but thank goodness for @Austin1992 because now I have the reminder I need to share with you this valuable “holiday!”
Today is National Underwear Day!!! And now for a completely random quote the organizers felt applied to this day:
“Confidence is the byproduct of believing in one’s self!”
“In an effort to publicly shine light on “unmentionables,” Freshpair founded National Underwear Day on August 5th, 2003. Over the last 10 years we’ve celebrated the holiday with New York City model events, massive underwear giveaways, a pop-up shop in Columbus Circle, and a Times Square runway show.
“2013 we invited thousands of people to Times Square to break the Guinness World Record for largest gathering of people in their underwear. While we missed the record, we celebrated confidently with over 800 people of all ages and sizes dancing on Broadway. People partied with
“Greg T from Z100, received holiday promotions, and enjoyed free swag from our sponsors including Papi, Diesel, Wacoal, Tommy Hilfiger, and many more.
“With every participant, it became clear that our core belief is as strong today as it was in 2003—confidence is the byproduct of believing in one’s self.”
I’m glad to be able to share with you all an interesting Domestic Discipline-centered relationship and the latest experience the sub in the relationship is having. Below you’ll read a short blogpost from their Tumblr page. While I’m not into contractual Dom/sub relationships, I know many are, so you may find this particularly interesting.
Getting sent to your room as an adult boy is a really humiliating thing. My Daddy will text me ahead of getting home and tell me basically just something like, “Go sit on the Spanking chair and wait for me to get home.”
This works well for us. He doesn’t have to say it aloud, and yet he makes his point. Let’s see how this works for “submale.”
I am not having a fun week. I had to wait for Sir in my room
this afternoon for him to get home from work. If you have never had to sit and
wait in your bedroom looking at the wall, knowing that at some point you were
going to be blistered and reduced to a crying and pleading mess.
I don’t recommend it.
You sit there and try to hear Sir arriving. You wonder how long
it’s been, how much longer it’s going to be (Sir forbids a watch or clock when
I am waiting like this). You stop thinking about it but then you come back to
reality. And today, I suddenly heard the door downstairs opening, and my heart
sank. It’s not fun.
The Sir took me to his bathroom and bent me over his bathtub and
used the bath brush. Curfew is 3:30 this week — or when I get in from work. Bedtime
is 7 — when it’s still daylight outside.
You have no doubt you are a male sub when these things happen —
nor any doubt you have been naughty and your Sir disapproves strongly.
Sir says I am going to be spanked hard and put to bed with a
burning bottom when he gets home from work one day — no dinner, straight to
bed. He has not said when, but he promises me it’s coming.
Online for a really short time, I met a boy called Original Face Student Stuff (OFSS). But he’s been blacklisted, I’m assuming because the pic on his blog had actual people (not actors) on them! He’s no longer there, and if he gets a new site, I’ll let you all know. But we had some time to discuss my conversation on the DudesSpankingDudes podcast. He was full of compliments, but also some thoughts I wanted make sure I shared with you all.
For the record, he approved me posting this. At any rate, here’s some of his questions. What I found interesting was how he was trying to get advice on how to guide his Daddy, so the experience could be best. Sometimes a Spanking isn’t enough! I think you’ll see how for this boy, it’s fine, and it’s needed, sometimes often. But ultimately, without a fuller, complete experience, it
OFSS: I have now listened twice to your interview on guys spanking guys. it is amazing. You are such a rock star, boy.
CC: Thank you so much! I’m blushing! Wow…you are so kind! I felt like I sounded funny on that interview. I’m glad you feel otherwise.
OFSS: I am going to get Spanked a week from tomorrow in Denver, actually.
CC: Oh, are you travelling, I’ll be travelling soon too!
OFSS: You were much more polished, and i learned a lot. i love how casually and directly you talked about the relationship, always used terms like underpants, and bottom—very impressive. Does your Daddy also dictate your haircut or other grooming?
CC: So yes, baths work because as a boy, I prefer when Daddy bathes me. He loves to do it. And no, he had no idea the first time we’d do that that’d he’d enjoy doing it. It gives him time to be in charge without having to punish. He really likes to just be in charge and have me in a pretty submissive space, completely naked and not allowed to wash myself.
As for grooming: Daddy often shaves my head, often after a paddling or Spanking making it a part of “discipline.” But I really think he just does it, because he doesn’t like when my hair grows out. He’s African American and in black American culture, shaving your boy’s head is “a thing.” You can see tweens and teens online being punished by having their heads shaved by their actual Dads for misbehaving. It’s not universal, obviously, but it’s something my Daddy understands and employs when he Spanks my fanny.
OFSS: Further, you were so definite about how things work in DD that I bet you are successful in coaching other boys, because you would not let them get away with anything.
CC: I could probably be a good Daddy one day, but I’m not really geared that way, at least not now.
OFSS: Sorry to go on and on, but I have to say, hearing in that interview that he bathes you sometimes was excellent. When i see this Spanker in Denver, i pretty much just shower when I get there, like coming home after practice. Which i just do on my own, he doesn’t help.
Do you think I’d be better off having a bath, where he helps? And … how would I ask for that without sounding, you know…?
CC: I think you have to just bring it up. I sent Daddy a text and a link to my blogpost on bathing boys. I have a bunch of content on the blog about that, so I shared it to get his feedback. His response was calibrated, he said he’d give it a try. Until we actually did it, we didn’t know it’d work. Then we found out it worked really well for us!
OFSS: I’ll let you know how things go when I get back from Denver.
[Unfortunately, his site was removed after this exchange, and I never did get to hear about how things went in Denver. If you are out there, OFSS, please tell us what happened and how things went!]
For those who haven’t heard the interview about Daddy and me and our Domestic Discipline relationship, you can hear it here:
Thanks so much for tuning in! I’d love your feedback too!