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It didn’t seem fair at the time, but now, on reflection, being Spanked for what I did on our summer vacation was fair.
In the world of CP and Spanking, a lot is made of “getting a Spanking you are to remember and think about afterwards.” Spankings are used in family situations because a lot of children are just lying or “getting away with things” and no amount of discussion is going to help clear things up. A lot of boys just disrespectfully lie or cause trouble, and so they are Spanked. But in adult relationships, a lot of the same bad behaviours persist, but the consequences for trust can be broken. It’s unhelpful to be adult and be able to talk your way out of behaviour that disempowers your partner—and the consequences can be pretty damaging over time. Trust erodes, love gets compromised, and apologies are unhelpful.
As I say, by Tuesday, I’d been thinking a lot about what I did that caused Daddy to Spank—rather than discuss—what had happened on our summer vacation. In this instance, on reflection, just like Spankings are supposed to, we saw immediate results. For all those out there who say Spankings don’t work, I beg to differ: in between every waking moment of work, I’ve been thinking about what happened and why it happened. And I’ve been thinking about how I need to write this down for posterior’s sake.
|The Spanking Chair|
I knew that getting The Spanking Chair out of The Corner would mean a Spanking with no questions asked. So I said I didn’t want to.
I guess he decided not to make a big deal of me not having my snout pressed into The Corner, probably saw how red and damage my rumpus was, and he walked out as I shook, cried, rubbed, and moaned.
Now, back home, I had already explained myself at the time in Canada. And he didn’t approve of that explanation: that I just figured they were too caught up in what they were doing (gaming in the living room while I went out and went to a money machine), to look up and realize I’d been gone too long.
|Reviewing adult boy’s Long Term Behaviour
Successful Strategies in Domestic Discipline
As Domestic Discipline Celebration Week comes to a conclusion this year, today we take a look at “Review and Punishment” sessions that often take place in the DD home.
In our home, Daddy uses these to review behaviour that has built up over a period of time. So, for example a Review and Punishment session could occur when a bunch of behaviour mounts: (1) we were at the theme park and I ran off; (2) we were out walking and I ran across the street at the crosswalk against the light; f(3) I didn’t come home from work when I told him I would; (4) I demanded he sit with me on a narrow stairway when the fireworks were going off, and I created a scene.
Daddy will usually let a bunch of misbehaviours build up before addressing them, if they’ve been coming in fast succession. He can usually tell when things are getting out of hand and needs to be brought back down to earth, across his knee now. (Before we were a DD couple, he’d just get angry and give me the silent treatment or just be miserable).
As you can see, Review and Punishment sessions do not have to be precipitated by specific action I’ve taken in the moment. I get Spankings for that, obviously.
The Review and Punishment approach in Domestic Discipline is a bit different. This is helpful in developing a consistent sense that you are not just in a relationship with another. Review and Punishment helps define that:
Defining the difference in your positions in a DD relationship is a regular need and helps keep the relationship vibrant, fresh, and effective. Why? Because in the end, we’re both males and to make the distinction is critical because we’re both apt to take charge of things by nature. Today let’s take a look at how James, the moderator of SouthSpanking, sees it.
by James (with some editing by CC)
All boys think Review and Punishment sessions are unfair, especially if the boy has been Spanked for the same thing earlier! But review sessions are purposefully set up and scheduled to go over the total period of time, since the last review. Therefore, anything that has happened in this boy’s life since the last review is on the table for discussion.
That’s just the way it is goes.
These review sessions are painful, but also they are good for boys. And although they may end in a Spanking, boys will come to appreciate them overtime, for sure. These sessions force adult boys to think deeply about some issues—such as boundaries he may have crossed or Rules he has broken with his Daddy.
Review sessions should be held when the adult son is relaxed and open to conversation. The son will always know these reviews can or may lead to a Spanking—which means that he is more apt to speak respectfully and behave in a way that helps lead to resolutions and results. Possibly the paddle or The Hairbrush will be sitting out where the son can see it, just to remind him that these discussions are always serious.
If Dad decides a Spanking is needed, then punishment will usually be across his boy’s bare bottom while he is high-up over Dad’s knees. The adult boy will then feel Dad’s hand on his bare bottom while Dad and son talk. Generally, review Spankings begin slowly, with some talking in-between slaps and build up until the young man is showing real signs of feeling things.
Typically they end sometime after tears are apparent once he has learned how to let his emotions out freely.
|Why Spank in the Kitchen or Living Room or a Public Space?
Today’s Blogpost Considers Some Reasons in Favour.
|Beware the Kitchen Spoon
It’s Worse Than You Think!
|Punishment in the Living Room|
I have a privilege that comes with being male, a privilege that in “real life” results in me speaking my mind. In a home with a full-Itime Daddy now however, I have to consider what I’m saying before I bring up issues, even serious ones. Daddy is a really really good listener about matters that are legitimate and not me being a big baby. But there have been times that a conversation has ended over Daddy’s knee, if I’ve basically confessed that I intentionally ignored his feelings or intentionally damaged our relationship.
It’s OK, it’s normal, is what I’m getting at. Don’t change a thing. You can go with that in a DD relationshi, too! There are just consequences to it in a DD relationship, whereas in a regular relationship there are no real consequences outside of battles of wills and if it’s persistent, nasty break-ups.
|Cornertime on the Stair|
Having been Spanked in public on multiple occasions as an adult boy, I found this image bringing back intense memories. The sound of a boy with an adult bottom being Spanked is noticeable from a distance. Especially if the Spanking results in a response from your boy, in the form of whimpering, crying, or yelping.
That means, if you are a Daddy and you are intending to Spank publicly (in a men’s room, in the car while on a drive, in a restaurant bathroom, in the park, in a mall, etc.) then be aware how attention grabbing it is not just for your boy, but for those around you.
In the image above, I like how the Daddy takes the time to tell the cameraman to stand back while he deals with the boy at hand. It gives you a great idea what it’s like to take your boy’s ‘pants down for a bare-bottomed Spanking in the car park. It’s complicated, because if you get your boy in his boyzone headspace, it maybe hard to quickly get his ‘pants and jeans up before outsiders come by to find out what’s going on. Nevertheless, it’s usually better to address misbehaviour immediately and not wait until you get home to deal with boys. While Cornertime Confidential never discourages Daddys to decide what’s best, and sometimes waiting until you get back home is effective because the time the boy has to think about the Spanking he’s going to get can make him really reconsider his behaviour, but Spanking boys immediately when bad behaviour, language, or mouthing off begins can effectively arrest problems before they continue or persist during a long day or trip out of the house.
Here’s a few snippets from my life:
My former Daddy Don used to have a hand-sized paddle in the glove of his car, so if a Spanking were called for, he could have that in his pocket while we were out. I remember being paddled by Daddy Don in a parking lot, in the car for acting up and whining about the lunch I was made to eat in Alexandria, Va. That paddle in the glove box was always a reminder to behave, and that Daddy would take it out when needed. I think that’s a part of why I got a public paddling. Daddy felt making the point once would eliminate the need to do that again, whenever I visited/stayed with him.
On a different trip through the Redwoods with Daddy Jay took me to Mendocino, and when I pulled the seat back down and turned over to climb in the back, That required taking off my seatbelt while he was driving. Daddy pulled over and paddled me red on the side of the road—or maybe he just made me lie down across the back of the passenger seat which I’d made lay flat, and paddled me right there in the front seat. Can’t quite recall, just remember my burning bottom! The rest of that car ride did not result in further playing around while we drove. I never took my seatbelt off again when I was in the car with Daddy Jay.
Switched by Daddy Jay in the Redwood Forest
On our way to Camp near Ukiah, Daddy Ron from Chicago Spanked me with the door open on the side of the highway! He just pulled over, opened my side of the car, facing away from the highway, and he sat down in my passenger seat. Then he pulled me over his knee and Spanked me really soundly for being antsy, not peeing before we left, and complaining about him not pulling over to let me pee.
Daddy Ron believes that the potential humiliation of being caught with your ‘pants down paddled red is equally as effective as a discussion about obedience which he’s also prone to give before, during, and after Spankings. I really like Daddy Ron, because he doesn’t just care enough to be your Daddy, but he’s also clearer than most Daddys about what being his good boy means.
Switched in the Woods by TXTop
Here’s a few blogposts about public discipline from Cornertime Confidential:
Hairbrush Spanked in South San Fran by Daddy Ron
Christmas time is tricky. Many adult boys want a new video game or toy. But Daddys—like adult boy’s actual parents—owe their little charges gifts that they can use and gifts that help a boy know his place in the Daddy/boy relationship.
With Christmas just around the corner (not The Corner, but the corner)—sometimes a corner is just a corner!!!—you may be thinking, “I have no idea what to buy that boy!” or “What on earth can I get Daddy that he’ll truly appreciate.” Today’s blogpost hopes to solve your last minute shopping needs.
Let’s begin with the Daddys out there. There are so many great gifts we’ve been able to recommend here at Cornertime Confidential, so below, we’ll review some of the better options you can get your boys this Christmas.
I don’t care what anyone tells me, having a stocking as an adult boy makes you REALLY feel like a real boy again. You can purchase one of these through Pottery Barn for fancy boys, or Walmart for your basic boy. My Daddy bought me one that’s fancy, but I don’t think I’m very fancy. But I like it anyway. Stockings are ideal for candy, tickets to theme parks, gaming conventions, and cos-play cons. They are also terrific for super kewl socks from and gift cards to Hot Topic or Spencers or Journeys. I love these stores because of the plethora of adult boy gear and toys they have for us!
Mugs and Hats
As you may know that as an underpants aficionado, I always recommend wrapping ‘pants for the boys in your lives in super kewl wrapping paper and making them a gift, not just a stocking stuffer. Here’s a few ideal briefs for your boys, depending on your boy’s size:
Best shirts for your adult boy come to you courtesy of babiedboi.spreadshirt.com . And if you use the PROMO CODE: Winter18, you’ll get an additional 15% off! @babiedboy has developed a simple design to make a great t-shirt for everyday wear. You and your boy can now go out together, and no one will bat an eye. Daddy and I go out with me in my T, and we’ve never gotten weird looks. It’s great and super good quality too. And now @babiedboy has hoodies, sweatshirts, and other options now! So great. I love my ringer T, it’s by far the most comfy T I have. Buy one for your boys today.
For those of you Daddys thinking I like my boy to be a see as a Big, not a little, you might consider getting your boys a T-shirt from the original Bob’s Big Boy. These are fun and clever and few will look at your boy and think, “Does he mean….Big boy?????”
Bath Time Toys
I’m a fan of baths, so if your boy is too, consider getting him a bubble maker for the bathtub! They’re fun, perfect for an evening of age regression. You can get your boy’s bubble maker here.
And who doesn’t like a backscrubbing brush when you’re in the bath? OK, well MOST boys don’t like the look of them, but well behaved boys tend to only have Daddys who use them on their backs for scrubbing not fanny warming. The best places for bathbrushes are here:
The way to make this a gift—not a threat!—is to make a single gift with BOTH a bath brush and a suds making machine!
Trips and Outings
When you take your boy out whether it’s for a trip to the park or for a long drive, there’s always cool things you can give that your boy will enjoy. I think bubble blowers are super kewl and easy to get. Everyone loves bubbles in a park or at a picnic. If your town has a “screen on the green” movie screenings series, these are a lot of fun pre-show.
You can get bubble machines here.
Tiger Brand Briefs are a great gift, because they are so expensive and they fit big boys (not just skinny ones like me!) We highly recommend you consider the reviews of their products. Some are cut better than others, and body type will determine which briefs are the best fitting. I am a 34″ waist and the briefs I have that fit the best are:
Keep in mind these are full-cut, high waisted briefs like the 1950s, 60s, 70s, and 80s. They are NOT the more modern cut that is briefer and more in keeping with the briefs of the 90s and early 00s. As in the picture you see to the right here, they do also make “mid-rise” versions, but those haven’t fit me so well, so I can’t recommend those.
More affordable and easy to buy boy briefs exist all over the internet, obviously, but the sizing is tricky for adult boys. I fit a bunch of different boy ‘pants, but that’s cuz I’m fairly skinny and my legs are thin. For bigger boys, it’s not so simple. Highly recommended briefs come from Arizona briefs, Fruit of the Loom, and especially The Children’s Place XL and XXL pants. These fit well for adult boys up to about 34″ to 36″ waists.
Other kewl gifts for boys include toys and playthings that may more closely align with any fetishes you engage in. There are wonderful shops all over the country and world with specialties worth exploring. But you can get ideal Daddy/boy tools right here in your own neighborhood pharmacy. Ideal surprise gifts can include:
There’s no end of the simple everyday you can find. For Daddys who hate to spend a lot on toys you only use once, so simple. It’s fun, it’s easy, and you can purchase many more items than at fancy fetishy stores.
Let’s talk a bit about what boys can get their Daddys.
Not every boy wants to buy exactly what Daddy needs, because in my experience the perfect gift can leave you with a very sore bottom. But for those brave enough to get him exactly what he needs, you can find perfectly satisfactory, sturdy wooden spoons, kitchen utensils, bath brushes, and Hairbrushes at T.J. Maxx, Ross for Less, and a myriad of similar knock-off stores.
Sticks and Stones
The Bath Brushes at Ross and TJ Maxx are super affordable, so Daddys and boys of any pay grade can participate! Daddy paddled with the one he got earlier this year, and boy, they work.
Now thanks to the environmentalists at EarthHero, we now have 5-packs of bamboo spoons which are good for extra-long term wear and tear. If one breaks, you always have 4 more to go! This pack is something I don’t think I have the guts to purchase for Daddy this Christmas!
There’s also all those promise you’ve made all year long or will make next year. Instead of idle promises, why not buy him a Behaviour Chart to post on the fridge. Daddy can monitor your behaviour and give you treats for when you’re good! And well, I know I don’t have to explain to you the results if you don’t. Here’s a few places to get these for your Daddy:
Then there’s clothing. Daddy T shirts are fun. Here’s a few ideas.
Or Trucker Hats that they also make. They’re kinda exceptional, when they fit well. If you’re Daddy has the right sized head for it, I highly recommend them!
But Urban Outfitters has regular baseball caps that would be pretty specific, but if you’re Daddy is brave enough to wear them out in public, they’re kinda great.