Today’s post is an important reblog from the great writers at Domestic-Discipline.net. Clint writes a variety of content, all directed at men and women in Domestic Discipline (DD) relationships. These are relationships that I would describe as being nested in trust, faith, and love, but also centered on discipline and obedience to the dominant partner.
You can see from those who follow them, sometimes the dominant partner in these relationships appear to not always be men. But for the most part, he writes for a christian and heterosexual audience. However, his advice and principles so directly impact the lives of men in DD relationships, I wanted to share this helpful information when possible.
So, with Clint’s permission, here’s his take on what Maintenance Spankings are, why we administer them, and how they can help make DD relationships stronger and better.
And with that, gentlemen, heeeeeeeeere’s Clint!
A topic that has come up a lot in the comments recently is the idea of Maintenance Spankings. With all the recent discussion about them, we figured now was the right time to discuss them on the blog. Maintenance Spankings provide the dominant partner a way to keep the submissive partner on the right track and reconnect, as well as provide a means for the submissive partner to get an emotional release. We’ll explain more in just a moment, but let’s start with what exactly Maintenance Spankings are.
[For a closer look on how to introduce Maintenance Spankings into your relationship, click here.]
Maintenance Spankings are light Spanking sessions conducted by the dominant partner on the submissive partner regularly, even when no infraction has occurred. They’re conducted in a very similar manner to how beginner level Spankings or warm up Spankings are done. The only major differences are:
- The implement used and
- The reasons behind the Spanking itself.
It’s recommended The Hairbrush or wooden paddle be used when conducting beginning level Spankings; however, with Maintenance Spankings it’s recommended something lighte be used, such as a Spanking buddy, a wooden spoon, or just the hand. The Hairbrush would also work well, but it wouldn’t be necessary to strike quite as hard as recommended for a beginner level Spankings.
The frequency with which Maintenance Spankings are administered remains at the sole discretion of the dominant partner, obviously. However, [from my experience], I’d recommend that Maintenance Spankings be given approximately one week apart, but not on the same day every week. For instance, if Maintenance Spankings are done every Sunday, they’ll lose effectiveness since the submissive partner will know when they are going to happen. Anywhere from one week to two weeks apart is ideal, give or take a day or two. As always, the dominant partner should be fair with this. If the submissive is having a good week, the Dom should wait a little longer to require maintenance. If the sub is having a rough week, we recommend the Dom do maintenance a little sooner than normal.
All the same methods recommended in the beginner level Spanking post still apply when conducting a Maintenance Spanking. Alternative cheeks when Spanking, the sub is in the leaning over the bed position, or over the knee, approximately 15 to 20 strikes, etc. It’s also very important that the Dom comforts the sub afterward, just as they would after a traditional Spanking.
Why would a couple conduct Maintenance Spankings?
1. To keep the submissive partner on the right track, and to remind them that they need to follow the agreed upon Rules at all times.
Maintenance Spankings are effective in helping the submissive partner remember to continue following The Rules and to continue doing the right things. Maintenance Spankings essentially protect the sub from himself during the week. By the Dom reminding the sub in this manner, it in turn makes it less likely that a major infraction by the sub will occur during the week.
2. To reconnect.
Spanking in general is a very intimate thing between partners. Given this intimacy, and given the comforting and cuddling that takes place after a Maintenance Spankings, some couple choose to make Maintenance Spankings a part of their Domestic Discipline relationship to simply enhance the intimacy between the two of them and strengthen that emotional bond.
3. To give the submissive partner an emotional release.
Maintenance Spankings offer a means to release emotions so the sub feels much better afterward…Sometimes just “crying it out” will help a sub feel better about whatever they were upset about, and Maintenance Spankings provide that avenue in with to give that emotional release.
There may not be an aspect of Domestic Discipline we’re more on the fence about than Maintenance Spankings. We’re 50/50 as being for or against them. However, we’re comfortable enough with them to include them on the blog, but they aren’t something we outwardly recommend couples do.
We’ve always felt a Spanking is a Punishment Tool intended to correct an unwanted, dangerous, or detrimental behaviour, and we don’t like the idea of Spanking when the submissive partner didn’t do anything wrong. We also don’t like the idea of Spanking when the sub is upset/crying to get their emotions out, since we feel the sub should never have to worry about showing emotion in front of the Dom. HOWEVER, with all of that said, we understand the benefits of Maintenance Spankings and a lot of couples prefer them. Don’t let our personal feelings discourage you from trying them if you feel they would be beneficial to your relationship.
Just as with all the recommendations on the Learning Domestic Discipline blog, Maintenance Spankings are something a couple should discuss together to determine if they’re right for their relationship. Now that you’re familiar with what exactly Maintenance Spankings are, how they’re done, and why they’re done, we encourage you and your partner to discuss them and determine if you both want them a part of your relationship going forward.