Hands in the Way: How to Handle This Persistent Problem
(***Again, a big spank you to Clint for his great post here, as the permission to repost. And for all the opportunities to repost his great work.***)
domestic discipline couples face when going through the Spanking process.
Prior to the Spanking itself hesitation and negotiating can be problems, and as
a couple moves forward with the actual Spanking itself, movement can become a
problem as well. Another potential problem during the Spanking is the
submissive partner deliberately reaching his hand back to interfere with the Spanking.
Clearly this would be/is a dangerous situation for the submissive partner, and
it’s the Daddy’s responsibility to address this problem to ensure the safety of
their partner throughout the entire Spanking process.
reaches their hand back during the Spanking, they immediately puts themselves
at higher risk of long term harm. Their hand could inadvertently be
struck with the Spanking implement which, on top of being extremely painful,
could lead to a broken hand if the Spanking implement being used is a dense one
(such as a wooden paddle). Needless to say, it’s extremely important the Daddy
get this problem corrected if it’s a recurring issue when Spanking.
their hand back during a Spanking is also done deliberately with intent to
interfere, which shows an element of disrespect to the Daddy. Movement
during a Spanking is an involuntary reaction to the pain source, reaching the
hand back is a choice consciously made by the submissive partner. They
want the Spanking/pain to stop, so they choose to interfere with it in an
effort to make the Spanking/pain stop. Given this added element of
disrespect, the Daddy now must choose whether or not to add an additional
consequence for disrespect, or intensify one of the recommended options
(outlined below) if in fact disrespect is breaking one of the couples agreed
upon rules of the household.
problem, the first universal recommendation before all the following options is
that the Daddy communicate to their partner how important it is that they not
reach their hand back during the Spanking before the Spanking starts. “Please
do not reach your hand back during the Spanking. The last thing we need
is you putting your hand in harms way. It’s very important that you keep
your hands out of the way, okay?” The submissive partner has been given
the choice at this point, so what does or does not happen to them as a result
of their reaching is up to them.
correcting the reaching problem are the same as the recommendations for
correcting the movement problem.
In this option, the Daddy would add additional strikes to the end of the Spanking.
It’s important that the Daddy be clear to their that the additional strikes are
for reaching the hand back to separate the two offenses (the original offense
and the reaching problem). Anywhere from 3-10 additional strikes is
The Spanking – In this option, the Daddy administers Cornertime for the
reaching problem their partner had during the Spanking once the Spanking is
– In this option, the Daddy stops momentarily mid-Spanking and gently moves
their partner’s hand out of the Spanking area, then strikes slightly harder
than normal for 5-10 strikes, then continues on at normal strength until the Spanking
is over. Again, it’s important in that brief moment that the Daddy
communicate to their partner that the harder strikes are for the reaching
problem so the submissive partner can separate the two offenses.
– This option is only useful for couples that Spank over any kind of
clothing. In this option the Daddy Spanks over the clothing until their
partner reaches their hand back, at which point the Daddy gently moves their
partner’s hand out of the way, removes their partner’s clothing momentarily,
strikes the bare buttocks 5-10 times, then puts the clothing back in place and
picks up the Spanking where they left off.
offenses, however most couples choose to Spank bare-bottomed from the start
rendering this option useless. For couples that Spank over the
underpants/clothing, this is the option we highly recommend they go with. This is yet another reason why, in addition to the other two in this post, we
recommend beginner couples Spank over the underpants/pajamas rather than
bare-bottomed from the start.
Implement in Line of Sight – In this option, before the Spanking starts, the Daddy
places a “worse” implement in the line of sight of their partner as a reminder
that any reaching will result in the use of that implement. If the
submissive partner has a reaching issue when using this option, it’s recommended
the Daddy strike 5-10 times with the “worse” implement to separate the two
offenses, then go back to the original implement being used.
most effective option, and thus the option most recommended. However, given the
fact that most couples choose to Spank bare-bottomed from the start, Option #3
is recommended to those couples in getting the reaching problem
corrected. Which option to be used is ultimately determined by the
of the “Addressing Spanking Issues” series. For the first, second and
third installments, please click on the links below.
|Click Here to Check out Uncle Matt’s View of boy’s Who Reach Back
To Stop a Spanking With Their Hands.